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The Long Goodbye: Living with the Departed in a Digital Age

Carnival will always be tinged with some sadness and introspection. Bank Holiday Monday 2014 was the day Diva passed away. Not that I have to wait that long to remember. Her thoughts, urgent pleas, pains, complaints, thank-yous, jokes, now follow me everywhere, the omnipotent presence at every turn. The texts are just a click away in the memory of my phone. Facebook now memorialises deceased users’ accounts if they get a valid request from loved ones. Our digital footprints now have the same status as our physical estate. How do you learn to live with the surreal fragments from the life of a departed friend? I met Diva Stravinskaite at artists’ studios in the summer of 2006 after I was allocated a space in west London. She had this uncompromising look which was further exaggerated by her imposing physique. She was the caretaker and was always busy fixing things around the building. She loved gardening and rescued many plants – two outlived her, the Cactus in the restroom and the long green bladed plant in the …